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afwla: Behind the scenes at the AFWLA 2013 campaign shoot with...

Tue, 18 Jun 2013 21:56:36 -0400

Behind the scenes at the AFWLA 2013 campaign shoot with model @fancytracy #afwla #afwla2013 #fashion #style #africanfashion #inspiration #blackbeauty #ankara #nigerian #blackmodels

thunni: No filter version.. This swimsuit

Tue, 18 Jun 2013 21:51:07 -0400

thunni:

No filter version..

This swimsuit

laurachavela: queerfabulousmermaid: pocproblems: n4di4: fresh...

Mon, 17 Jun 2013 23:10:05 -0400

laurachavela:

queerfabulousmermaid:

pocproblems:

n4di4:

freshmouthgoddess:

Good Secret Bad Secret - Girls Handclapping Song! (by createfuturegood)

Protect girls against abuse

Get it girls! Let em know.

Go on girls. If this ain’t revolutionary then idk what is!

*Cries* my heart

I wish I had heard this when I was younger. This is brilliant. Must show little sisters now. Protect girls against abuse.

Thee most beautiful video!

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Mon, 17 Jun 2013 23:07:39 -0400

blackandkillingit: daghanaianchiq: Nichole Galicia Black...

Mon, 17 Jun 2013 23:06:57 -0400

blackandkillingit:

daghanaianchiq:

Nichole Galicia

Black Girls Killing It Shop BGKI NOW

ecrivainexmachina: deux-zero-deux: lovenohoee: trillshitniggaa...

Mon, 17 Jun 2013 23:05:25 -0400

ecrivainexmachina:

deux-zero-deux:

lovenohoee:

trillshitniggaaa:

ohsobreezyjane:

fastcarsandchocolatebars:

Why’s it always Drake 😂😂😭😭

I’m CRYINGGGGG !

Whyyyyyyy.

Im done lmao Im crying so hard !

lmao leave that man alone

I swear I hate y’all.

Ya’ll are so foolish. Thank You! lol

The world isn’t good enough for these beautiful chocolate...

Mon, 17 Jun 2013 20:11:53 -0400

The world isn’t good enough for these beautiful chocolate children and it makes my heart hurt to see them struggle.- This is gold! Thank you!

"Youths are passed through schools that don’t teach, then forced to search for jobs that don’t exist..."

Sun, 16 Jun 2013 00:25:20 -0400

“Youths are passed through schools that don’t teach, then forced to search for jobs that don’t exist and finally left stranded in the street to stare at the glamorous lives advertised around them.”

- Huey P. Newton (via xeram)

The Problem with 'Boys Will Be Boys'

Sun, 16 Jun 2013 00:21:33 -0400

The Problem with 'Boys Will Be Boys':

ozziescribbler:

ami-angelwings:

gettingahealthybody:

For months, every morning when my daughter was in preschool, I watched her construct an elaborate castle out of blocks, colorful plastic discs, bits of rope, ribbons and feathers, only to have the same little boy gleefully destroy it within seconds of its completion.

No matter how many times he did it, his parents never swooped in BEFORE the morning’s live 3-D reenactment of “Invasion of AstroMonster.” This is what they’d say repeatedly:

“You know! Boys will be boys!”

“He’s just going through a phase!”

“He’s such a boy! He LOVES destroying things!”

“Oh my god! Girls and boys are SO different!”

“He. Just. Can’t. Help himself!”

I tried to teach my daughter how to stop this from happening. She asked him politely not to do it. We talked about some things she might do. She moved where she built. She stood in his way. She built a stronger foundation to the castle, so that, if he did get to it, she wouldn’t have to rebuild the whole thing. In the meantime, I imagine his parents thinking, “What red-blooded boy wouldn’t knock it down?”

She built a beautiful, glittery castle in a public space.

It was so tempting.

He just couldn’t control himself and, being a boy, had violent inclinations.

She had to keep her building safe.

Her consent didn’t matter. Besides, it’s not like she made a big fuss when he knocked it down. It wasn’t a “legitimate” knocking over if she didn’t throw a tantrum.

His desire — for power, destruction, control, whatever- - was understandable.

Maybe she “shouldn’t have gone to preschool” at all. OR, better if she just kept her building activities to home.

I know it’s a lurid metaphor, but I taught my daughter the preschool block precursor of don’t “get raped” and this child, Boy #1, did not learn the preschool equivalent of “don’t rape.”

Not once did his parents talk to him about invading another person’s space and claiming for his own purposes something that was not his to claim. Respect for her and her work and words was not something he was learning. How much of the boy’s behavior in coming years would be excused in these ways, be calibrated to meet these expectations and enforce the “rules” his parents kept repeating?

There was another boy who, similarly, decided to knock down her castle one day. When he did it his mother took him in hand, explained to him that it was not his to destroy, asked him how he thought my daughter felt after working so hard on her building and walked over with him so he could apologize. That probably wasn’t much fun for him, but he did not do it again.

There was a third child. He was really smart. He asked if he could knock her building down. She, beneficent ruler of all pre-circle-time castle construction, said yes… but only after she was done building it and said it was OK. They worked out a plan together and eventually he started building things with her and they would both knock the thing down with unadulterated joy. You can’t make this stuff up.

Take each of these three boys and consider what he might do when he’s older, say, at college, drunk at a party, mad at an ex-girlfriend who rebuffs him and uses words that she expects will be meaningful and respecte, “No, I don’t want to. Stop. Leave.”

The “overarching attitudinal characteristic” of abusive men is entitlement

This is so brilliant. We learn things from socialization process. What our parents, friends and peers do, media and all. I think perhaps rape is because parents think boys will be boys, they bully, fight and destroy things, it’s their characteristics so they don’t bother to stop them. But it manifests in them, knowing or unknowingly, they will just think, because I’m a boy and boys tend to do these, so it doesn’t matter even if the girl hates it, says no, because I’m a boy.

Just reblog this, this message is really powerful. For parents and future parents.

What’s also interesting, is if you frame this as about spoiling your children, and about spoiled children, people tend to agree and get it. They’ll agree that children whose parents lay down no boundaries for them when they hurt others, who let them have whatever they want at the expense of others, and justify away the harm they do, will probably grow up thinking they can do this to others (usually weaker than them, or they perceive as weaker) as adults. But if you mention the word “privilege”, “entitlement” or anything relating to gender, everybody freaks the f- out and will deny up, down, back, forth, and sideways that how you raise a child, what you allow them to get away with, or training them that their hurtful behaviour will always be justified, can affect them at all.

ALL OF THIS.

Obligatry read FOR EVERYONE

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Fri, 14 Jun 2013 23:50:09 -0400

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Fri, 14 Jun 2013 23:49:28 -0400

"Writers, like elephants, have long, vicious memories. There are things I wish I could forget."

Fri, 14 Jun 2013 23:49:10 -0400

“Writers, like elephants, have long, vicious memories. There are things I wish I could forget.”

- William S. Burroughs (via avec-des-sentiments)

delias-magsadana: older-and-far-away: bouncybat: myampgoesto11...

Fri, 14 Jun 2013 23:16:38 -0400

delias-magsadana:

older-and-far-away:

bouncybat:

myampgoesto11:

Bethan Laura Wood: Stain

Stain is a set of a teacups designed to improve through use. This project examines the assumption that use is damaging to a product, for example, scratches on an iPod).

The interior surface of the cup is treated so as to stain more in predetermined places. The more the cups are used, the more the pattern is revealed. Over time they will build up an individual pattern dependent on the users personal way of drinking tea.

I have never wanted a cup any more than I do now in my entire life.

Would this work for coffee too?